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| Maame Frimpomaa and Ernest(Genesis) |
Everyone seek for a charming, beautiful, handsome, hardworking, honest, intelligent, independent and most especially faithful partner when entering into a relationship. Yes, it is always good to dream high and seek for the best for yourself. But in doing that, you shouldn't forget that there isn't any perfect person out there. The efficiency of a machine is even said to be 99.9% and not 100% and this also applies to human.
We are fallible and have our own shortfalls. You may meet a beautiful, intelligent, honest, rich etc. lady/guy but that person may be quick-tempered or abusive which is a minus.
Being selective is mostly seen with women as compared to guys. Most ladies are choosy which is not bad though but may prolong your stay in your parents’ home. Oh, let me clear this before you get me wrong. I don’t mean to say you should accept anyone who comes your way, at least there should be some standards but those standards must be moderate and not extravagant.
Now, enough of the lectures since you’ve heard it over and over again and I don’t mean to get you bored. Let me go straight to the point and later we can debate that issue further.
It should be emphasized that marriage is not a child play but a lifetime decision which needs to be carefully thought of. Some marriages start with all being rosy and luxurious with life being enjoyed to the fullest but three months later, couples will be battling for divorce in court. This is not to say this happens to all such marriages but that has been the norm recently. But I also know of a couple who started with eating “Bankye ampasi and hot pepper” without “kobi” but have stayed for thirty years and over. So looking for a compatible partner is key and not affluence.
Does this not surprise you? The difference between the two is that; one selected a partner on financial grounds and enjoyed the fame it comes with without taking into consideration some critical factors. So when the reality showed up, divorce was the only way out. However, my bankye ampesi couple considered how they can complement each other and employed love and understanding as the foundation of their love.
This brings me to my main focus. Marriage is all about love, understanding and being able to complement each other. As there is no perfect person out there, you really need to “tolerate each other’s nonsense” and acts like a deaf and blind person i.e. “You see no evil nor hear no evil”. That was the strategy my good friends Frimpomaa and Ernest employed to get their relationship going and now I proudly call them Mr. and Mrs.
The two young couple encountered several challenges, ups, and downs, breakups and comeback, high tempered argument etc. but with the basic ingredient which is love and understanding, they made it to the alter. The God factor cannot be relegated as the two are very prayerful.
So as I give you the basic relationship tip, I also celebrate my good friends, Maame Frimpoma and Ernest (Genesis). With God, love, and understanding all other necessities would be added.
We are fallible and have our own shortfalls. You may meet a beautiful, intelligent, honest, rich etc. lady/guy but that person may be quick-tempered or abusive which is a minus.
Being selective is mostly seen with women as compared to guys. Most ladies are choosy which is not bad though but may prolong your stay in your parents’ home. Oh, let me clear this before you get me wrong. I don’t mean to say you should accept anyone who comes your way, at least there should be some standards but those standards must be moderate and not extravagant.
Now, enough of the lectures since you’ve heard it over and over again and I don’t mean to get you bored. Let me go straight to the point and later we can debate that issue further.
It should be emphasized that marriage is not a child play but a lifetime decision which needs to be carefully thought of. Some marriages start with all being rosy and luxurious with life being enjoyed to the fullest but three months later, couples will be battling for divorce in court. This is not to say this happens to all such marriages but that has been the norm recently. But I also know of a couple who started with eating “Bankye ampasi and hot pepper” without “kobi” but have stayed for thirty years and over. So looking for a compatible partner is key and not affluence.
This brings me to my main focus. Marriage is all about love, understanding and being able to complement each other. As there is no perfect person out there, you really need to “tolerate each other’s nonsense” and acts like a deaf and blind person i.e. “You see no evil nor hear no evil”. That was the strategy my good friends Frimpomaa and Ernest employed to get their relationship going and now I proudly call them Mr. and Mrs.
The two young couple encountered several challenges, ups, and downs, breakups and comeback, high tempered argument etc. but with the basic ingredient which is love and understanding, they made it to the alter. The God factor cannot be relegated as the two are very prayerful.
So as I give you the basic relationship tip, I also celebrate my good friends, Maame Frimpoma and Ernest (Genesis). With God, love, and understanding all other necessities would be added.
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